more on respect...

A child has also to be taught the meaning of 'respect for self'. This can be demonstrated through an unwillingness to endure disrespect. The more often parents model respect for the child, the less often they need to discipline the child.
Those times when we ask a child to do something and he does not respond, we can model mutual respect by delaying a privilege or pleasurable activity. Speak to your child in tones you would like to hear from him. Validate him by listening to him. Minimize his mistakes, focus on what he does right and encourage it. Express appreciation for his help, and show your faith in him. Encourage signs of progress and avoid demanding perfection. Avoid criticizing and nit-picking or fault finding. Make requests rather than barking out orders. Very soon you will have a respectful child. Teach your child that you have to earn respect. Remember, respect is commanded, not demanded.
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